Signs of a Husband having an Affair – Some Important Points to Check
Infidelity and extramarital affairs are the most severe problems for the married couples that destroy the relationships too. We can’t deny the fact that it is the most common reason for divorce.
Recently a professor (Deborah Carr) at Boston University has confirmed that approximately 25% of men have confirmed that they have slept with other women during their marriage. While this cheating and unfaithfulness can due to multiple reasons. Some of the common reason can be
- You don’t have a good relationship with your spouse
- You are hypersexual
- You have started loving someone else after your marriage
There are countless other reasons as well that can lead to Infidelity and extramarital affairs as well. Even in the USA, Canada, and the UK, many people are suffering from infidelity.
Are you thinking how can I know that my husband is having an affair? Its answer is very simple, that there are some signs by which you can judge that your spouse might be having an affair with someone else. We are going to share some common signs of an affair husband. Remember these are just the signs and they cannot guarantee that your husband has an affair but still, these unnatural signs can tell you much more about your spouse.
Some Signs that Your Husband Might be Having an Affair
As we have discussed that “signs that my husband is having an affair” is one of the most typed queries by the married women on the search engines. So, let’s discuss some signs that can indicate that something is not right.
It depends on person to person i.e. some of the husbands don’t mind to keep their extramarital status public. In this scenario, they don’t want to hide anything from the wife. It simply means that he is not interested in you now. Well, in the case we recommend you to read “tips to get your husband back”.
We have also seen that in some cases husbands want to keep their extra affair private. It’s a sign that he might be interested in you as well and want to keep a relationship with other women too. Now, let’s get back to the main topic that is “signs he’s having an affair”.
Some Unexpected Change in Looks
After an affair, many men change their physical appearance. They pay special attention to their looks, clothes, and health. If your husband has suddenly changed his physical appearance to a great extent then that is a mysterious sign for you. This can be a sign that your husband wants to attract any other woman by his looks.
Change in Behavior and Attitude
When a person moves away from you, the first thing you might note is the change in behavior. Usually, men start ignoring their wives when they start some extra affair, while some of them become extra cautious. The thing is that you will see the change in behavior and attitude that can a negative or positive.
He likes to Stay Far Away
Most of the people who have extramarital affairs like to stay far away from their wives. Naturally, when you are becoming close to anyone, you also went far away from other people. The reason is that the time, attention, care, and affection is divided. If your husband remains far away from you or he has started ignoring you then it can be a sign that your husband is having an affair.
Always Busy on the Phone or Computer
Social media and mobile phone gadgets connect people globally. There are many negative effects of social media on our family relationships too. If your husband is having a secret affair then one of the most common signs is that he will start using his mobiles and social media accounts more frequently.
He is having a Defensive Approach
We have already discussed a fact that a defensive approach in any relationship can be destructive. This can also cause a breakup or can lead your marriage towards divorce. Recently many marriage advisors have claimed that people who have extra affairs mostly use a defensive approach. By defensive approach, we mean that “I am always right”. A husband that always uses a defensive approach in some suspicious activities can have an affair.
Guilty and Abnormal Behavior
Some of the people feel guilty while they are doing some illegal activity, while others are normal. If your husband is having a guilty or abnormal behavior then you must notice it and try to investigate it, as it can be a sign of an extramarital affair too. It’s a human nature that when you do something wrong, suspicious or illegal you might have a guilty behavior.
Studies have revealed that people who are the jailbirds have less guilty behavior as compared to normal people. Just for an example if your husband is having a third or fourth extramarital affair then he might not feel as guilty as compared to a person who is committing this crime for the first.
Spend Less Time at the Home
It’s a natural phenomenon that when you want to become close to a person, you start spending some good time with them. Similarly, when a husband will be close to other women then he will be spending less time in the home with his family. He can also claim that I am busy in some work that’s why I am not paying attention to my home and family. While this claim can be true or wrong depending on the situation.
Different Sex in your Relationship
Sex is an important part of life between married couples. If you are seeing your husband as a different man while having sexual relationships then there is might be something wrong. While in an extramarital affair some husbands stay normal in a relationship with their wives. While others start running away from these relationships.
If your husband is running away from this relationship then you might think that he is having an affair or sexual relationship with other women. Husbands who are extra clever and smart keep it normal so you may notice any change in your relationship.
He is Accusing you of Weird Behavior
You might have heard that “Offence is the best defense” and the case is the same in the marriage relationship. Most of the husbands that are having an extra affair, accuse you of cheating and weird behavior. This is usually done to hide anything mysterious and you put all the responsibility on your partner. Instead of accepting the mistake you accuse your partner of abnormal and weird behavior.
Normally Talks about Other Women
Some relation advisers claim that when husbands have an affair, they normally talk about the other women with their wives to. If your husband talks about any other women frequently, that can be a sign that he is having an affair. In some cases it can be normal too, that depends on different scenarios that we will discuss in other points.
He is Taking too Much Care of Himself
This point is somewhat similar to that your husband is having a change in physical appearance. Now some extra care means that he is taking some special care of his diet, doing exercise and interested in some other activities that can make him fit and make his looks more attractive. When a person is facing some illness he also becomes careful with his diet and exercise. So, only consider this point if you are also getting some other suspicious signs that we have mention in the above points.
You Sixth Sense and Guts are Telling you that Something is Wrong
Humans are blessed with an extra sixth sense that can indicate to you when something is going wrong. Similarly, when you are searching for the signs of an affair husband, you might need to keep your eyes open. We will say that instead of showing some hyper behavior, firstly try to confirm the things. Along with your senses, you can take help from the above-mentioned points.
Lack of Communication Between Both of You
Lack of communication is also considered as the reason for many divorce and breakups. Sometimes it is from the side of your husband, while sometimes wives are responsible for it. If your husband doesn’t want to communicate with you it’s an alarming sign for you. It can also mean he is having an affair but it is not true in all cases.
He is Getting Some Extra Gifts
Normally we listen that the exchange of gifts increases the love between people. But excess of everything is bad. If your husband is receiving a lot of gifts from others then this thing can be suspicious for you. You can also judge by the category of gifts that your husband is receiving e.g. people of opposite sex exchange different gifts as compared to the people having the same sex.
Other Secret and Suspicious Activities
Coming home very late, unavailability on weekends and telling a lie are some suspicious activities that can tell you that something is wrong. These suspicious acts are also linked with your sixth sense too.
You Partner Avoid you When you Talk about Cheating
These points usually vary from person to person. Usually, most of the husband starts ignoring their wives when they talk about cheating. The point is that they don’t want to discuss these things or they don’t care about you.
In some cases, it has been seen that husbands start fighting with their wives when she talks about this topic. Physical abuse is also seen in these cases where the spouse wants to talk too much about an extra affair.
He is Spending a Lot of Money
Everyone spends some money according to their needs but if your husband is spending too much extra money on unknown things then this sign is also suspicious for you.
He Doesn’t Like Good Things from Your Side
The majority of the husbands who already have an affair doesn’t like the good things from their wives. Usually, this has been seen when a wife tries to exchange a gift or cooks special food for her husband.
If your husband is not liking good things from your side you might need to investigate the problem.
Our Final Conclusion about the Signs Your Husband is having an Affair
So, we have discussed in detail about the signs that your husband is having an affair. Like we have already said that even these signs cannot guarantee that your husband has an extramarital affair. But if most of the points (mentioned above) are true in your case then there are high chances that your husband is having an affair.
Amanda Love is a marriage consultant and a relation advisor. She is a lawyer by profession that mainly deals in the issues related to marriage, divorce and physical abuse.